Finishing

“Boredom is a sin, an insult to God to ignore all his miracles.”

Thomas Alvin Bessey, AKA Dad

In March of 2020, I qualified in all the serious risk categories for Covid.

Uh oh. I think I have a problem.

I was grounded by my doctor but it didn’t bother me as much as I expected because I am so easily entertained.

I love crafting and I had years’ worth of half-finished projects stuffed into closets and cabinets because I was pouting. That’s right…feeling sorry for myself because I’d had several brilliant ideas for original hand-crafted gifts only to discover that someone else was doing the same thing.

Folks were stealing my ideas. (If one more person tells me, “Imitation is the greatest form of flattery”, I will scream!)

Here’s an example: One Christmas, I made seventy-five gorgeous broaches for my therapy clients using Grandma’s old buttons, and some hand-collected beach glass, only to find nearly identical, mass-produced pins at Nordstrom’s! (How grandiose am I, thinking Nordstroms stole my idea?)

But the theft kept happening. Each time one of my brilliant ideas was “stolen”, I had a silent tantrum, and filled with self-pity, I stuffed another incomplete project into a grocery bag and hid it in a cupboard.

Then a beloved mentor told me I was looking at it all wrong.

“No one’s stealing your ideas. You’re simply tapping into the artistic collective consciousness.”

Ahh, exactly what I needed to hear. I accepted her wisdom and committed to finishing my abandoned projects while in isolation. I had beaded necklaces and bracelets using clever magnetic closures, piles of hand-stitched baby blankets with matching burp cloths for my childbirth clients, picture frames and treasure boxes adorned with beach-glass and shells, ruffle-edged, crocheted infinity scarves, and several mixed media collages and mosaics.

That was a huge pile of unfinished stuff, just hanging around, making me feel bad about myself.  

Suddenly Covid Lockdown became a gift!

In a race against my rapidly progressing arthritis, while binge-watching movies and TV shows, I picked up a project and completed it. And then another, and another…

As I worked, I took the time to think about the person it was for—client, friend, neighbor or family member–and then finished it for them

My pile of incompletes dwindled significantly, but my collection of craft supplies did not.

I was not done.

So, I crocheted 5 more baby blankets, adorned 15 found hubcaps turning them into painted and beaded Mandalas, dried hundreds of flowers for collected thrift store vases, handmade 60 Holiday Cards with flowers and feathers, and designed 25 framed collages with inspirational quotes.

What in the world could I do with all the rest of these supplies? 

Though I’d completed my projects, I still had lifelong collections of beads, buttons, beach glass, photos for cards, yarn, shells, rocks, paints, feathers, fabric, etc.

I had to give it away because if Covid took me, no one would know the stories and history behind my collections. I’m talking about beads in their original glass tubes from little shops in the 1960’s Haight-Ashbury district, and buttons from the 1800’s that came across the plains with my ancestors in wagon trains, or the glass I picked up off remote beaches on uninhabited islands in Fiji! 

To avoid all the existential angst that “give-away” task produced, I decided to ignore it and instead, check out the Instagram thing everyone had been telling me about.  

Ironically, coincidentally and fortuitously, the second post I saw on Instagram was about this non-profit project called Loose Ends*–a name that jumped off the screen because in two little words, it captured the biggest focus of my current life. I watched the piece and burst into tears of joy and gratitude! 

Their mission?

“the Loose Ends Project aims to ease grief, create community,

and inspire generosity by matching volunteer handwork finishers

with projects people have left unfinished due to death or disability.”

Best anti-depressant ever! And an answer to a prayer I hadn’t known I’d been praying.

I’d found a perfect home for my treasured crafting supplies. 

Addendum:

Recently I moved and James built me a lovely studio, so I have a place to continue crafting whenever the urge strikes.

But after it was all set up, to my horror (and secret delight), I still had to rent a storage unit.

Can you guess what this unit contains?

Uh oh. I think I have a problem.

*(https://www.looseendsproject.org/).

Spirit Lifter–Day 363 of being “grounded” 3/4/21

My best friend craves the desert. My son does also. My partner comes alive in the mountains. My two other best friends have to be in the center of a huge city, surrounded by history and art.

Me? Well, I don’t know where the phrase “Happy as a clam” originated, but I must be part clam, because I am never happier than when I am on a long, flat beach, staring out into the ocean…

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It’s really the way I have survived this year of lockdown and isolation.

I picture the ocean, the beaches I have loved, and the amazing lifestyle I had the pleasure of growing up in…

not MY dolphins

So when my only friends left living in my childhood stomping (well, SURFING) grounds sent me this article, I was delighted! I could FEEL this experience, with all my senses.

I hope you have a place in your mind you have been able to go to during this last tumultuous and devastating year.

Wishing you safety, health, and peace.

With Love,

ChosenPerspectives

 

Thank you, John R. Lewis—1940-2020

(couldn’t find this video without ads…sorry! worth watching though!)

 

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/john-r-lewis-front-line-civil-rights-leader-and-eminence-of-capitol-hill-dies-at-80/ar-BB16T4CP?ocid=msedgdhp

 

 

Spirit Lifters: Day 75 of being “grounded” 5/20/2020

OK, it’s really getting long now…so it’s time to seriously shift our perspectives and consider instituting new, healthy daily habits into our “new normal” lives. Along with taking care of ourselves physically, we simply must attend to those other parts that are being insidiously drained, even damaged during this pandemic.

Here’s one of my regular self-care habits, a potential, inspirational resource, as well as a couple of new musical treats.

This is an excerpt from the newsletter of one of my favorite people, Karen Drucker. She is a talented musician, comedienne and public speaker.

Almost anything will work again if you unplug it for
awhile…including you.
Anne Lamott
You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.
Joseph Goldstein
This is precisely the time when artist go to work. There is no time for despair, no place for self-pity, no need for silence, no room for fear. We speak, we write, we do language. That is how civilizations heal.
 Toni Morrison
I have to admit I have gone through every emotion during this last month of shelter in place: thrilled to be home; deeper connection with my hubby; anxiety about gigs cancelling and how to pay bills; feeling like I need alone time; happy to not have to fly followed almost immediately by wondering if I will ever be on a plane going to a gig again! Back and forth – happy, panic, bliss, fear. Lather, rinse, repeat!
The most positive thing for me, though, during this time has been connecting back to doing music. My friend, Alan Cohen, has a great expression: “Make the main thing be the main thing!”  I realize that with all the gigs and traveling and hyper-busy-ness, I let the joy of creating music get pushed to the back burner. It seemed to me I just didn’t have the time. What has become clear to me as I analyze what really lights me up is how writing and performing healing music helps my soul. When I get emails from people telling me that a certain chant helped them get through cancer treatments, or how singing along with me during this challenging time we are in is easing their anxiety – these messages validate what the main thing is for me – creating music. Right now, what feels like a suspension in time also feels sacred to me to be able to have the space to write and record again.
The greatest gift along this healing path that I have received was delivered this month – a beautiful 64-page booklet produced by Unity Churches featuring my “Heart of Healing” songs. It includes essays written by various writers and Unity ministers, with affirmations around each of the themes that the songs convey. This is a free booklet available to anyone. Even though this project was started last year it seems so perfect for what we are all going through right now. For information on how to receive your booklet contact: The Heart of Healing
So like the quote above from Toni Morrison, I am committed to do my part in helping us all heal by writing songs that, hopefully, will uplift, heal, and connect us as we all get through this challenging time together. I wish you peace during this time and hope that we will meet in person soon!

 

Here is Karen’s calendar (lots of virtual options) and a way to hear her music and to get her newsletter.

Calendar

Or her main website;

Home

If Karen isn’t your cup of tea, find a person or organization who speaks your language, fires up your brain, and touches your heart.

And really important, keep access to it easy, handy for those days when you need something to balance out the bad news we are be inundated with daily! (I read the Greater Good Science Center articles.)

When all else fails, music can make us think differently, feel deeply, or just smile!!

 

And this really fun one that was around even before this Virus took over our lives!

 

Look up more songs by  Playing for Change ! I bet you’ll find something you like.

That’s it for now. As always, I love comments, any kind, and I’m not getting many, so if you “like” this post, take a minute to write me something, just a sentence will do!!

Thanks so much.

Chosen Perspectives