Finishing

“Boredom is a sin, an insult to God to ignore all his miracles.”

Thomas Alvin Bessey, AKA Dad

In March of 2020, I qualified in all the serious risk categories for Covid.

Uh oh. I think I have a problem.

I was grounded by my doctor but it didn’t bother me as much as I expected because I am so easily entertained.

I love crafting and I had years’ worth of half-finished projects stuffed into closets and cabinets because I was pouting. That’s right…feeling sorry for myself because I’d had several brilliant ideas for original hand-crafted gifts only to discover that someone else was doing the same thing.

Folks were stealing my ideas. (If one more person tells me, “Imitation is the greatest form of flattery”, I will scream!)

Here’s an example: One Christmas, I made seventy-five gorgeous broaches for my therapy clients using Grandma’s old buttons, and some hand-collected beach glass, only to find nearly identical, mass-produced pins at Nordstrom’s! (How grandiose am I, thinking Nordstroms stole my idea?)

But the theft kept happening. Each time one of my brilliant ideas was “stolen”, I had a silent tantrum, and filled with self-pity, I stuffed another incomplete project into a grocery bag and hid it in a cupboard.

Then a beloved mentor told me I was looking at it all wrong.

“No one’s stealing your ideas. You’re simply tapping into the artistic collective consciousness.”

Ahh, exactly what I needed to hear. I accepted her wisdom and committed to finishing my abandoned projects while in isolation. I had beaded necklaces and bracelets using clever magnetic closures, piles of hand-stitched baby blankets with matching burp cloths for my childbirth clients, picture frames and treasure boxes adorned with beach-glass and shells, ruffle-edged, crocheted infinity scarves, and several mixed media collages and mosaics.

That was a huge pile of unfinished stuff, just hanging around, making me feel bad about myself.  

Suddenly Covid Lockdown became a gift!

In a race against my rapidly progressing arthritis, while binge-watching movies and TV shows, I picked up a project and completed it. And then another, and another…

As I worked, I took the time to think about the person it was for—client, friend, neighbor or family member–and then finished it for them

My pile of incompletes dwindled significantly, but my collection of craft supplies did not.

I was not done.

So, I crocheted 5 more baby blankets, adorned 15 found hubcaps turning them into painted and beaded Mandalas, dried hundreds of flowers for collected thrift store vases, handmade 60 Holiday Cards with flowers and feathers, and designed 25 framed collages with inspirational quotes.

What in the world could I do with all the rest of these supplies? 

Though I’d completed my projects, I still had lifelong collections of beads, buttons, beach glass, photos for cards, yarn, shells, rocks, paints, feathers, fabric, etc.

I had to give it away because if Covid took me, no one would know the stories and history behind my collections. I’m talking about beads in their original glass tubes from little shops in the 1960’s Haight-Ashbury district, and buttons from the 1800’s that came across the plains with my ancestors in wagon trains, or the glass I picked up off remote beaches on uninhabited islands in Fiji! 

To avoid all the existential angst that “give-away” task produced, I decided to ignore it and instead, check out the Instagram thing everyone had been telling me about.  

Ironically, coincidentally and fortuitously, the second post I saw on Instagram was about this non-profit project called Loose Ends*–a name that jumped off the screen because in two little words, it captured the biggest focus of my current life. I watched the piece and burst into tears of joy and gratitude! 

Their mission?

“the Loose Ends Project aims to ease grief, create community,

and inspire generosity by matching volunteer handwork finishers

with projects people have left unfinished due to death or disability.”

Best anti-depressant ever! And an answer to a prayer I hadn’t known I’d been praying.

I’d found a perfect home for my treasured crafting supplies. 

Addendum:

Recently I moved and James built me a lovely studio, so I have a place to continue crafting whenever the urge strikes.

But after it was all set up, to my horror (and secret delight), I still had to rent a storage unit.

Can you guess what this unit contains?

Uh oh. I think I have a problem.

*(https://www.looseendsproject.org/).

Covid 19 Lock Down Survival Kit Saint Patrick’s day, 2020

To start with, one of my favorite musicians, Geoffrey Castle, an electric violinist, who plays everything from hard rock and roll to Irish Ballads, and whose biggest performance of the year is naturally Saint Patrick’s Day, has suggested that tonight, from the safety of our own living rooms, at 7 PM (PST), everyone sing along with The Wild Rover

https://music.geoffreycastle.com/track/wild-rover

He says, “No live stream, no pay per view, nothing all fancy and high tech like that, just a moment in time when all across the land we sing the best Irish Drinking song ever, all together!
Sort of like a St. Patrick’s Flash Mob, except without the “mob” part.
Actual drinking of whiskey is entirely up to you.”

 

Like so many other professions, the need to address current health crisis on our planet has basically eliminated Geoffrey’s income for now. So listen to his stuff and buy something should you feel inspired to…

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Next, I have received so many wonderful emails this week from my clients sharing how they are taking care of themselves while in “Self Quarantine”!! Maybe one will inspire you!!

One couple has banded together with another couple, their best friends, to support each other, and not be alone. Living, working and sharing meals at home.

Another couple writes: “We are both working from home and I just feel a new sense of connection and love between us 🙂 What a time to get that when we get to be stuck together with this new working from home lifestyle!”

Trapped in a New York apartment and working from home, this person says “I’m organizing my apartment, taking long baths, and online shopping.” (This could be dangerous for me personally…Hmm, do I really need 5 of those gaiter neck warmers??)

I LOVE this, a couple who has been struggling so hard to find enough time to keep their relationship healthy says, “We’re hunkered down in our house and oddly this time has actually been good for us even though life is very strange right now. I think cutting out the commute, social planning and resetting has meant slightly less stress and more time for those small moments of joy.”

And in a hard irony, from a newly retired person, is uplifting anyway! “What a time for having to avoid contact with people now that I am (finally) trying to expand my social connections, not limit them.  Oh well.  I have survived pet rocks, disco, gas shortages, big hair bands, grunge and having a reality tv president, so I have hope and faith that I will manage to get through this okay. :-)”

Joan Borysenko

I’ve been finding some very uplifting things and great advice online. One of my favorite “teachers” is Joan Borysenko. She shared this wonderful video a few days ago. About 8 minutes,to help you ground and relax.

https://www.joanborysenko.com/2020/03/taking-the-fear-out-of-coronavirus/?mc_cid=a6a354b845&mc_eid=9f7e69f7cb#video

Joan wrote today: Even amidst this crisis, and all the preparation it entails, we have the ability, perhaps the obligation, to spend a little time looking for the beauty, the goodness and the grace in life. Focusing on the good calms our mind, strengthens our immunity, and it feels wonderful!

 

And lastly, for all the young people still experiencing the blissful belief in immortality, us older folks need you to slow your party roll for just a while, so you don’t expose us to this virus. Just remember:

Your Grandparents were called to war. 

You’re being called to sit on your couch.

You can do this!!

 

So hunker down. DO all the nice things for yourself you rarely have time for. We’ll all wait it out together.

In the mean time…can you CROCHET????

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Reblog from my friend Karuna

Please, please…for our grandchildren…

Dalai Lama Quote

“To remain indifferent to the challenges we face is indefensible. If the goal is noble, whether or not it is realized within our lifetime is largely irrelevant. What we must do therefore is to strive and persevere and never give up.”

― Dalai Lama XIV

Photo a Week Challenge 9/19/19 Stacked!!

I already LOVE this week’s challenge!

First the DATE! How fun! As a kid, I always told everyone 9 was my favorite number.

Also, as a kid, the word “stacked” meant something very different than the way Nancy Merrill is using it here. Don’t worry. If you are old enough to remember that use of the word, I will spare you any “R Rated” photographs…but here’s a word picture for you.

My last name was Bessey, which got mean-girl turned into “Busty”……because I wasn’t! 

I was the very last girl in my P.E. class to wear a bra! And boy, did I get teased about that. But understanding just a little about genetics, even in junior high school, I knew a time might come when I deserved the nickname Busty. My mother, aunt and grandmother were all…uh, hugely STACKED. It just happened to each of them a bit later in life! Where are those Mean Girls now, huh?

Back to what I’m sure Nancy intended with this challenge…

It has taken me all week to figure what I might have in my life that is “stacked”. I have been completely blank…even last Saturday when we went to the Farmer’s Market. I actually took pictures but never equated the two things. Duh.

 

Then a trip down to the beach did not trigger an idea…duh.

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Next, I house-sat for friends and took a bunch of photos out the kitchen window, trying to capture the interaction between a feisty squirrel and sarcastic Blue Jay! Uh duh.

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And again, with the Universe shouting in my ear, on the long drive home, listening to early morning radio, there was a delightful debate among the D.J.’s about the piles of rocks one finds while hiking the Pacific Northwest trails. One suggested these stacks were Art. Another, a memorial. And the third, irate by the way, insisted they were trail markers, both directional and as a warning to indicate some difficulty.

I still could not figure out any thing in my life that was stacked. It wasn’t until going through old photos that I started to get a clue. First I spotted this…a wonderful house on Alki Beach called the Flower House. Check out the STACKED rows and boxes of flowers!

 

 

That made me think of our Mountain Retreat. Look how many stacked railroad ties that are holding it all together!

Casa-before new bathroom

 

This reminded me of a trip we took this summer to Glacier National Park. We stopped for gas and I fell in love with this stacked rock wall.

 

You know, denial is a funny but powerful thing. I had all these hints and arrows pointing, but I STILL had not remembered the most obvious example of “stacked” in my life. There’s a good reason for that. I don’t want to think about it, but maybe confessing it here to you, will inspire me to get off my you-know-what and finish a massive task I took on 5 years ago.

I love our Casa in the mountains but parts of our paradise can be pretty gray, barren of vegetation for long stretches of the year. And though it serves an essential purpose, one of my least favorite views out of more than half the windows, is the massive stacked rock wall along the whole back of the house and driveway. It is actually a work of art in its way but it’s just bleak, all year round.

So I took it upon myself to brighten it up! I am NOT a gardener of any kind. I plant Primroses every year because they are the laziest, easiest thing I could find to bring color into my suburban yard. But we are at elevation at the Casa and very few things survive winter and the deer….except certain succulents!

So for years, I have been experimenting with just a few types at a time. Those amazing plants grow practically right out of the ROCKS. And so far, some have wintered well, and apparently are not of interest to our wildlife population.

 

But this wall of stacked rocks is over 60 feet long! It may take the rest of my life but little by little, I’ll get them all decorated!

Now I understand why I completely “forgot” about this example…literally right in my own backyard!

Whew! Stacked indeed!

 

Thanks for reading and I so love comments!! Especially from those Readers I have not welcomed or interacted with yet.

 

 

A Photo a Week Challenge: Stacked